The Higher level of education, awareness and independence of women in all strata of society has played a major in eliminating the ages old notion that they are destined to sacrifice and compromise, and not serve their significant half and his family as the purpose of their existence. Divorce lawyers
all over India share experiences and stories of the requests and cases they receive from people seeking mutual divorce
or contested divorce
. It does not imply that it is only suffering women who seek divorce and separation
from cruel husbands; the converse is also true and we come across numerous stories of men who suffer at the hands of manipulative and mistreating wives and families. An experienced divorce lawyer in Bangalore
once told us that what matters, in the end, is that one partner is dominant and the other is all-enduring, and the latter eventually moves for a legal separation when they decide they have had enough. The times have changed and more people come out with their experiences now, which is indeed appreciable as it gives the requisite strength to more weak partners to speak up against abusive/exploitative marriages and fight for their rights. However, not all divorce cases are due to abuse and cruelty, says Adv. Arvind from Bangalore, “many couples in tech-cities are simply tired of each other and approach us for mutual divorce.
They do not have time for personal life, and got married simply because that is how the society works. But then life happened, and the society cannot come live your life”. Marriage Counselor Mr. Anubhav from Delhi says, “This is precisely why people should think and decide on what they want in life, before jumping into a decision simply because that is what everyone else does and that is expected of you too. Divorce becomes an unnecessary tedious exercise if you could have just given it forethought and realized that married life is not a feasible option for you.” While mutual divorce takes comparatively less time and the process is less painful, the contested divorce
is a different story oftentimes. When one partner seeks divorce for reasons like adultery, cruelty or desertion, the other party naturally defends his/her part and it leads to false allegations and dirt-hurling in the Courtroom. Since contested divorce
can be granted only on the grounds listed under the specific Act, couples seeking divorce try to manipulate and distort the facts to bring matters within one of the listed ground by hook or by crook. The despair gets the better of them, and then there is no stone unturned in getting that divorce.